The Woman in the Red Dress



In Los Angeles, anybody can be somebody…and most nobodies are somebody, but not necessarily anybody somebody would care to know.

Which explains why I’m standing at the front door of Dee Turnell.

Where I live in west Los Angeles, people go out of their way to look normal – even the celebrities – but Dee stuck out of the crowd. With her bold outfits, ruby-red lipstick and perfectly coifed hair, she is impossible to miss, and I knew I had to meet her.

After a bit of legwork, I discovered that Dee was neighbors with a friend of mine, whom I bribed with home-baked chocolate chip cookies in exchange for an introduction. A few days later my friend called back to let me know Dee agreed to the interview with one stipulation: “No questions about the prison time, that was a trumped up charge. I was acting in self-defense.”

It was a direct quote, which I would later find out was her idea of a joke.

Dee lives in a sweet little two-bedroom bungalow on a tree-lined street. The yard is neat, and her 1989 Pontiac Bonneville looks like it was just driven off the showroom floor. There’s no doorbell; instead, there’s a doorknocker that looks like the comedy/tragedy mask you’d find tattooed on the bicep of a failed actor, turned life coach.

When Dee opens the door the first thing I was struck by is the color of her hair. It’s pomegranate red and it pounces on your retinas. On Dee, it makes sense. It fits her. She’s also much taller in person. Until now, I’ve only seen her walking around town. She’s about 5’11” but with her hair frozen in the shape of a puff of cotton candy, and heels, she stands close to 6’ 1” tall. Before I could say anything, she smiles broadly, taking my outstretched hand in both of hers and says, “You must be Lloyd!”

The way she said it made me really happy to be me. I wanted to say, “Fuck yeah, I’m Lloyd!” but that probably wouldn’t have been appropriate. I just say, “Guilty,” which sounded lame then, and even lamer now.

Dee is dressed in a green and red paisley jumpsuit, which makes her look like a member of a NASCAR pit crew, if Liberace had a NASCAR team. Her green patent leather pumps peek out from under the cuffs of her bell-bottoms, hoping to be noticed. The vast majority of her face is taken up with her signature glasses – red and large enough to reach from the middle of her forehead to below her cheekbones.

“Come in. Have a seat. What can I get for you? You like iced tea? I have Coke…well, Diet Coke. It tastes better with Captain Morgan.” This was just one long run-on sentence, but she didn’t sound like a teenager on a Red Bull high; instead, it sounded like she was purring. The words slid out of her mouth as if on satin.

I smile at her. “Water is fine.”

Dee drops a hand to her hip. “Y’know, when I was having dinner with Clark Gable, he said….” Dee lowers her voice a few octaves and changes her posture. “Water is what you drink when you can’t find something with taste.” Then she laughs the way I imagined she did when Clark Gable said it and disappears into the kitchen to get drinks, leaving me in the living room by myself.

Every surface of the room is covered with pictures; all of a younger Dee dressed up, looking happy and usually with a drink in one hand and a cigarette dangling from the other. I only recognize a few of the people. They were the old Hollywood guard, including Bob Hope, Johnny Carson and Milton Berle. From the kitchen I hear Dee singing to herself; I can’t make out the song, but she has a decent voice.

Suddenly, Dee is standing behind me. “It’s an ugly habit.”

“What is?”

“Cigarettes, although, truth be told I really miss them. Nothing goes with a vodka gimlet like an unfiltered Camel.” She points to a love seat that faces the fireplace, “Have a seat.” I obey, and Dee sits adjacent to me, her legs crossed and her Diet Coke balanced on the arm of her chair.

“So, to what do I owe this honor? I’m not used to men hunting me down anymore. Of course, back in the day, my dance card was pretty full. One time, I had a drunk Jerry Lewis tapping on my bedroom window, right there,” she motions toward a door down the hall. “He must’ve thought I was some cheap whore he could drop in on. Y’know, he’s so fucking holier-than-thou, with that telethon and all, but let me tell you…” she leans forward and lowers her voice as if telling me a secret, “…he’s a first class asshole.” She motions with her diet Coke, “Dean Martin was a class act. He had enough talent for the both of them. The critics always gave Lewis the credit, but anyone can act like an idiot. Try and class a joint up sometime – it isn’t as easy as it looks.”

I hadn’t thought about it, but she was right. Getting people to laugh at you has got to be easier than being a presence, raising the level of the room. “The last classy thing I did was buy my wife a diamond ring after she gave birth to our first child…but I’m not sure if it’s still considered classy if she told me to buy it.”

Dee sips her Diet Coke. “Touchdown, but you missed the field goal.” She smiles and claps her hands on her lap, “So, where’d you like to start?”

I turn my tape recorder on. “Let’s start at the beginning. Where are you from?”

“Kansas City.” She stirs the ice with her finger, “Nice town, if you don’t mind spending the rest of your life being bored, wondering what you could’ve been. My parents didn’t want me coming out here – back then, you got married, had kids and then waited for death. I didn’t want any part of that nightmare; so I got a job as a secretary, figuring I would save up enough money to hit the road. Things were going along pretty well until this salesman named Ernie Matthews pinched my ass like he owned me. Can you imagine?”

I actually tried to imagine the brave soul who would dare cross Dee, and figured it would take a special combination of balls and stupidity, which apparently Ernie possessed. “Did you report Ernie to your boss?”

Dee laughs. “Sexual harassment was part of the job, so I took matters into my own hands. I nailed Ernie in his manhood with my Swingline stapler. After that his days of pinching asses were done.”

Dee paused and took a sip from her glass, and I noticed her pinky was pointing straight up. “I got fired, which was fine with me, I’d had enough,” she continued. “So that night, I went home packed a suitcase, kissed my folks goodbye, hopped on a bus and came out here to be famous.”

“You just jumped on a bus? Did you know anyone out here? Did you have a plan of action?”

Dee laughs hard this time. “Honey, the only way to get through life is by being naïve. If you think about what you’re doing too much, you aren’t gonna do it. I didn’t know a soul, but I’m smart, and scrappy. I knew I could figure it out. I mean, what was the worst thing that could happen? I fail and get on a bus and go back to Kansas City? If that was the worst thing, then I was willing to take the risk to make my dream come true.”

“What was your dream?”

“I wanted people to know who I was. I could sing okay, dance good enough to get by, and I could act a little. Things were a lot different back then. You think Ginger Rogers could win on ‘American Idol?’ No way. She was horrible, but she had Fred Astaire to cover for her.”

“Was Hollywood what you thought it would be?”

“Oh, hell no! Hollywood is a dark, disgusting, vapid place, ruled by egomaniacs that prey on the beautiful and stupid.” She pauses, and then her face breaks into a toothy grin. “Don’t ya just love it? Where else are you going to find this kind of evil, all dressed up and smiling? All these people hate each other, but they need each other, so they’ve figured out this dance.”

“By the looks of the pictures you must have some great stories.”

She smiles coyly, “I might, but I’m not sure you’re old enough.”

I say, “When you’re a short, balding Jew, you’re born old, with a back ache and a craving for cured meats. So come on, let’s hear your best story.”

Dee laughs, “Let me see…I think my favorite story was when I was in “An American in Paris” with Gene Kelly, who by the way, is one of the nicest, most honorable men I’ve ever met. Anyway, he has to do this unbelievably difficult song-and-dance number, but he’s got some back spasms, and everyone is flipping out because his number is a tent pole piece for the movie. So I see him lying on the floor of his dressing room, and I go in and tell him I can fix his back – but it’ll cost him. Gene looks up at me with this smile that could literally melt the polar ice cap, and he says, ‘I don’t care what it costs, just fix it.’”

“You knew how to fix his back?”

“I didn’t know the first thing about fixing backs, but I was great in the sack! You don’t last long as a chorus girl if you can’t fuck!”

I was momentarily stunned to hear the word “fuck” come out of her mouth. “You had sex with Gene Kelly?”

Dee laughs really hard. “Right there on the floor of his dressing room! Made his back worse…they ended up having to postpone the shoot.”

I almost do a spit take, “You screwed “An American in Paris” into delays?”

“Yup!” She reaches out and grabs my wrist. “And get this, on the last day of shooting, Gene comes up to me and says, ‘Y’know, your back remedy cost Warner Brothers $20,000 in down days.’”

“What’d you say?”

“I just fixed him with my best dead-eye stare and say, ‘I figured it was worth at least twice that.’ Then I turned and walked away, making sure he got a great look at my ass, and trust me, back then this ass could make good men, do bad things.”

“Was that it? Did he come after you?”

“Not right then. Gene didn’t chase after girls, but we went out a few times. I knew it wasn’t gonna work out though. Guys like Gene Kelly don’t want women like me – they want women that are quiet and gentile, who smile, but stay in the background. I might be a chorus girl, but I’m not living in the background, sweetheart.”

I’d only known Dee for an afternoon, but I already understood how she would never have found happiness in any man’s background. “Did you date a lot of celebrities?”

“I don’t think anyone ever really dates a celebrity,” Dee said with a note of authority in her voice. “Famous people are too in love with themselves to be in a real relationship. The only way you can be with a celebrity is if you’re okay with loving someone and never having them reciprocate.”

“So you never got married?”

“Why? You looking for another wife?” She flashed that smile again.

I look at her nervously. “I’m not sure I could keep up with you.”

She sits up and straightens her outfit. “I was married once,” she said. “Henry Lang, sweet guy.”

I don’t know why, but I was surprised to hear that she’d been married. “What happened?”

“He was this big producer, a man’s man – as in, he was a man who liked men. Back then, that was a career-ender. Henry needed a cover, and I needed my bills paid. It worked out well for everyone. It’s how I got this house,” Dee said, looking around the room.

“No one knew what you guys were up to?”

“Hell, I’m sure everyone who needed to know, knew. But if someone took a picture of him at some party, there I was – the demure Mrs. Henry Lang. Really kinda sad, if you think about it. Poor guy could never be who he wanted to be. It was as if he was a secret agent for a country nobody cared about. The one upside is that I got to be real good friends with Rock Hudson.”

I’m stunned, “Henry and Rock were dating?”

Dee stands up and walks over to the bookcase of pictures and picks up a black and white photo. “This is Henry, Rock and me at the Mayor’s Ball,” she says, with a twinge of pride. “That Rock Hudson was the most handsome man I ever laid eyes on. I used to tell him that I was pretty sure I could screw the gay out of him, but unfortunately I never got the chance.”

She hands me the picture. Standing between Rock Hudson and an equally dashing Henry Lang was a very young Dee. They were all dressed in formal eveningwear; Dee had a large orchid perched on her shoulder and the three of them wear the kind of smiles you see on people who truly love one another.

I hand her back the picture. “What happened to Henry?”

Dee carefully puts the picture back in its spot. “He had a run of films that tanked, got behind the eight ball financially and was too proud to reach out to anyone for help. So one night, he took a bottle of sleeping pills and never woke up. The gay guys like to leave a pretty corpse.”

A long silence passes, finally Dee talks, but her voice is much smaller now. “You know the saddest part wasn’t that he killed himself, but that no one showed up for his funeral.”

“Not even Rock Hudson.”

“Especially Rock Hudson, though I never blamed him,” she said. “In Hollywood you’re only as good as your image. And as soon as Henry was gone, the tabloids starting smelling a good story. No one in the business wanted to get the stain of Henry’s misfortune on them. I understood. I even think Henry would’ve understood, but that was the end of my Hollywood dream. After that I didn’t want to be part of it anymore. It was someone else’s turn to live that life.” She takes in a deep breath, and slowly exhales.

The mood in the room had changed; the Dee that had answered the door – the chipper, optimistic woman I had met earlier – suddenly felt smaller, more fragile.

Dee looks over to the framed pictures, all lined up at attention. “I don’t have any regrets,” she says, keeping her eyes on the photos. “I wake up knowing I’ve done pretty much exactly what I wanted to do, in the way I wanted to do it. And I think I’m a pretty happy person – a glass half full person…but I still get angry from time to time. I should probably work on that some. My temper can get the best of me.” She turns back towards me, and I could see her eyes welling up.

I can imagine Dee losing her temper, but I have a feeling it’s not all that often, “What makes you angry?

“Dishonesty,” she says with conviction. “And trust me honey, I’m not sitting on some high horse. I’ve lied plenty. Lots of people lie. Husbands cheat on wives. Workers rob their companies. Politicians lie every time they open their mouths. I don’t care about that stuff – I’m ready for that. Nope, it’s all these sweet, darling people, like my Henry, who are afraid to be honest because some asshole tells them that it’ll be the end of their career. Or they are told that they’ll have to leave their church, or in Henry’s case, that their family will disown them.”

Dee stares straight at me. Through me. “Everyone deserves the chance to be honest…and then it’s up to them to do what’s right.”

As if on cue, a tear rolls down her cheek. She wipes it with the back of her hand. This wasn’t going the way I thought it would be going. “Are you okay?”

“Oh sure, I’m okay,” she says with a sniff. “But if it’s all right with you, I’m gonna cut this short. I’m supposed to meet some friends for lunch.”

I stand up, gathering my stuff, “Yeah, of course, maybe we can get together another time…talk some more.”

She flashes that smile again; Dee the chorus girl is back. “I’d like that.” She walks me to the door and gently puts her hand on my back. “Take care of yourself sweetheart,” Then she quietly closes the door.


A few weeks ago, our mutual friend stopped me on the street and handed me a legal-sized envelope; the return address was Dee’s. My friend explained that Dee had passed away, but she’d left instructions to deliver the envelope to me.

It didn’t feel right to open it on the street, so when I got home, I opened the envelope. Inside was the black and white photo of Dee standing between Rock and Henry. On the back was a note, written in nearly perfect cursive.

Dear Lloyd,

Honesty will only get you so far. A nice ass will take you the rest of the way.



The Man Who Failed Upwards

Morris Bronstein (or as he is known to his friends, “M.B.”) is a living, breathing testament to the Peter Principle at work. He began his career as a junior art director working on Charmin and by happenstance was teamed up with Charlie Myers. Morris didn’t have a creative bone in his body, but Charlie was a genius, something Morris was quick to realize.

In no time, based on Charlie’s great work and Morris’s ability to take credit for the work, the team rose through the ranks, hopping from one agency to another, eventually finding themselves running a large international agency.

Fortunately for Morris, Charlie, like most creative people, was mentally ill, something he had done a good job of hiding most of his life. But now with the daily pressure of running an agency, Charlie was starting to crack. This became painfully obvious when his proclivity for “elder” hookers and diuretics came to light on Veterans Day 2001.

Charlie had hired Mitzy “Me Love You Long Time” Chang, the self-proclaimed first and only Asian burlesque dancer turned prostitute. Mitzy found Charlie face down in the bathroom with his pants around his ankles and panicked, calling hotel security, 911, and her pimp Sid Bluementhal.  According to the police report, Charlie had miscalculated and downed one too many Ex-Lax cocktails causing suddden dehydration, shock, and unconsciousness.

Charlie survived, but his career was over. He could no longer take the pressure and resigned, taking eight million dollars in stock options with him. Morris was now left in control.

Morris didn’t like to dabble in the day to day business of advertising, he preferred sitting in judgment of his minion’s work. His general plan was to wait until someone he deemed talented said something was good, then he would jump onto that bandwagon, making every attempt to convince people that he realized it first.

Of all of his clients, Morris’s favorite was Louis Vuitton. He liked feeling like he knew something about high fashion, but secretly he hoped that one of the models would be impressed with his stature and sleep with him…which never happened.

Suddenly feeling creative, Morris decided he would do something he had never done before. Come up with an idea on his own and then force his team to dress it up. Which is how we find Morris standing in a conference room, with his client, a smattering of creatives and one very nervous account person pitching the Louis Vuitton client his idea.

Morris is dressed in black, head to toe, in a vain attempt to mask the growing paunch hiding under his oversized Marc Jacobs’ sweater. His thinning hair is slicked back and his rimless glasses barely fit around his melon-sized head. He sighs heavily and looks across the table at the Vuitton Client.


“We aren’t selling bags. Anyone can sell bags. Fuck, I can go down to Canal Street right now and buy a knock-off Louis Vuitton bag for 20% of what your bags go for. Nope, this isn’t about bags. This is about an attitude. A lifestyle. A desire. And we’re going to define all of that with this campaign.”

He takes a sip off his Diet Coke scanning the room to see who is with him and who still needs selling. Realizing he needs to up the bullshit he takes a deep breath, exhales, and pastes his best sincere look on his face.

Morris (cont’d):

“Each of these ads will capture a moment that might’ve happened, or should’ve happened, or will happen. Moments given life by the greatest talents this generation has ever known.”

(he pauses for dramatic effect)

“Captured by the greatest photographer of this generation.”

(he bows his head, seemingly exhausted by the weight of what he just said, the room is silent, he looks up, squeezes his eyes shut, then looks back to the people in the room.)

Morris (cont’d.):

“In the words of the great Italian philosopher, Giambattista Vico, ‘Uniform ideas originating among entire peoples, unknown to each other, must have a common ground of truth.’ (he takes a beat) And the truth is what we shall find.”

The room is silent, you can hear the phones ringing outside the conference room, finally, one of the Vuitton clients raises his hand.

(he speaks in a thick Italian accent)

Client: “I don’t give a shit about truth.  We gonna sell the fucking bags?”

And two months later the print campaign Morris had visualized started appearing in magazines.

This is the first ad I noticed.

This is supposed to make us think that Bono and some woman that I think is famous, but I don’t really care about, just dropped into the African bush to hang with locals and sing around a campfire (notice Bono is carrying his guitar). And yes, I know Bono has done a lot of good helping the people of Africa with their overwhelming debt to the world, but that doesn’t mean he’s not an arrogant prick.

I feel like I’m looking at Highlighter magazine and I’m supposed to circle everything that is wrong with the picture. For instance, this is probably the first, and last time, Bono ever carried his own luggage. By the way, does anyone actually believe that Bono really travels this light? My guess is the bag he’s carrying is the one holding his scarves.

And I understand that Bono has an image, but when you jump into a Cessna, to be dropped into the plains of Africa, you can leave the pretense of being a rock star behind. Unless of course you want to stick out like a sore thumb, which makes it much easier for the local wildlife to cut you down and use you as a palate cleanser between meals.

This was the second ad I noticed.

Is it just me or is there something slightly…how do I say it?  Pervy about this picture. I’m sure the photographer, Annie Leibowitz, was trying to show us how the great film-maker Francis Coppola passes down the art of film-making to his daughter Sophia, but does anyone really believe that this is a real scene from their life? As a dad it would be nice to think that one day my daughter would stare into my eyes with that much love and respect and adoration, but in reality, if I could get her to hear me when I ask her to wash her hands after she craps, I’d be happy.

And maybe it’s just me, and my jaded, hateful, side, but if their life is this fucking idyllic, I wish they would keep it to themselves. No one likes rich people shoving their awesome life down our throats…or at least I don’t.

This is the third one.

The big P.R. spin on this ridiculously posed picture was that Angelina Jolie didn’t have any hair or make-up done for this picture. First, I call bullshit. A-list celebrities don’t purposely step in front of camera without a full crew of people to make it look like they haven’t done anything to make them look beautiful. Second, it’s fucking Angelina Jolie. Is it really that surprising that she can look pretty if she didn’t have any hair or make-up done?  I’ve learned from my wife that beautiful women have this really subversive code to make other women feel like shit. The jig goes like this:

Regular woman:

“Oh my God, you look beautiful!”

Beautiful woman:

“Really? I just rolled out of bed, I haven’t even done my hair or make-up.”

Did you catch that? I never would’ve, but then I grew up in a house full of brothers. My wife has explained to me that the subtext is “I don’t have to try to be beautiful, like you, because I’m naturally beautiful.” In my world this would be like me telling a guy in a Ferrari, “Nice car. Sorry about your cock.”.

So if the goal of the p.r. people was to make women feel like shit, mission accomplished!

I think the most interesting part is that we are supposed to accept that Angelina walked into some malaria infested lagoon in Cambodia, barefoot, with her Louis Vuitton bag. Yes, I know Angie and Brad have traveled extensively bringing peace and love to places that smell worse than a construction site port-o-potty, but someone on her team (and trust me she has a team) should have told her that this faux-real scene makes her look douchy at best.

This is the fourth one.

This is Sally Ride, the first American woman in Space. Buzz Aldrin, the second human being to set foot on the moon. And Jim Lovell the commander whose balls of steel, brought Apollo 13 back to earth safely.

You’d think that it would be hard to make them look shallow and insipid, but Annie Leibowitz apparently has cornered the market of irrational situations for this campaign.

I’m generally not a guy who is rah-rah America, but I just don’t want to see American Icons like our astronauts pandering for a product that is so far out of reach of the average American.  One of the great things about astronauts is that, although they are in many ways, better than the vast majority of us will be at nearly everything they do, they still seem like us. They aren’t physically imposing like professional athletes and they don’t talk down to us like scientists can and do. Which is why I find this particular photo the most offensive of all these photographs. These guys are heroes. Our heroes. And yet here they are posing for a photo that is so generic it could easily be for Coca-Cola or Levis or Afrin. In fact, if you don’t read the fine print you probably wouldn’t even realize who these people are, what they’ve accomplished, how important they are to the very fabric of our country.

But I digress.

We find Morris seated in business class, his destination is Cambodia, where he will get to meet Angelina Jolie. His goal is to get a picture with her that he can post on his Facebook page. Virtually bragging to his peers that he’s important enough to be seen in her company.

Midway through his 4th martini, his words are slurred and his self-importance transcends his ability to see that the unfortunate woman seated next to him for 18 hours just wants to read a book and sleep.


“Can I tell you the dirty little secret about my job? (He doesn’t wait for her to answer, assuming everyone wants to hear what he has to say). My clients don’t want something new or different. They might say they do, but what they really want is comfort food. What they want is a grilled cheese sandwich, so I make them one, except I add a tomato, and tell everyone that I’ve re-invented the grilled cheese and claim ownership. Then I feign offense when someone makes a grilled cheese with cheddar. I don’t have to create anything, just re-create, but make it sound new.”

The woman looks at him with a mixture of disgust and pity.


“How can you do that? Don’t you want your work to be the best? Stand out? Change the world?”


“Sweetheart, I don’t want to burst your bubble, but we can’t all be Steve Jobs. My clients don’t like change, they want someone else to take the risk. If I don’t take my client’s money for doing redundant work, someone else will.”

And that is really the rub. This isn’t the fault of Morris or Annie Leibowitz. This is Louis Vuitton’s fault. They, got what they wanted. What they deserved. What they knowingly or unknowingly asked for.

A campaign completely void of personality.

Much like Morris and their logo adorned bags.

Enough Said

The phone rings, I check the caller I.D. and pick it up, “Go.” In my fantasy answering the phone this way makes me sound like a homicide detective, when in reality it probably makes me sound like a tool, who thinks he sounds like a homicide detective.

“Can you talk?”  The voice belongs to one of my best friends. I’m gonna to call him Otis, it’s not his real name, although, it’s much better than his actual name.


“Depends? You got something better going on?”

I hear an echo from his side of the phone. I know instinctively this could mean only one thing. “Otis, you calling me from a bathroom?”

“Jesus H. Christ. What do you care? I need to talk.” Otis sounds rushed and slightly panicked.

“You okay?”

“No, I’m not okay. In fact I’m very not okay.”

My wife thinks that when my friends and I are huddled together at dinner parties or our kid’s school events, we’re talking about important things. Finances, work, family, but the sad truth is, we should be, but we aren’t. Our conversations have not matured beyond sixth grade. We’re still mesmerized by tits and fast cars and laugh when we see friends hurt themselves, especially if it’s self-inflicted.

I’m not sure what’s wrong with Otis, but I’m hoping he isn’t going to ask me for a kidney.  I like him, but not enough to give him a kidney. “What’s the problem?”

“It’s very serious.”

“Are we talking Hallmark movie of the week serious or Oprah sweeps week serious?”

“Worse. Hold on.” I hear a small voice in the distance and Otis’s tone changes, “Casey, sweetie, Daddy needs some privacy. So move away from the door. (there is a 3 second silence) I can still see your feet under the door, just move away…move away. I’ll be out in a minute.” There is another moment of silence. “Well it’ll probably be longer than a real minute, but you know where I am, and I’ll be out soon.” He comes back to the phone. “Holy shit, I’m being stalked by my own family.”

“You could’ve called me from your car.”

“What are you fucking crazy? My car time is my ‘me me’ time, the bathroom is my ‘me-you’ time.”

Oddly, this makes complete sense. “So what’s the problem?”

“You know that I’ve got my holy trinity, right?”

Over the years Otis has boasted about his holy trinity. Crapping. Farting. Masturbating.  He gets pleasure out of his life as a husband, father and businessman, but for sheer selfish joy, he’s got the holy trinity. “Nothing more holy.”

“Exactly. The other day I was taking this dump, my toes were curled up and I’m sweating bullets. I’m working like a God-damn Mexican, which by the way is not a derogatory statement because I’m sayin’ Mexicans work hard.”

“Sounds derogatory from you.”


Whenever someone says, “whatever”, they really mean, “you’re right, but I don’t want to admit it.”  Otis ignores me and keeps talking, “I don’t think you’re getting the total picture. I was in the zone. Did I mention that my legs fell asleep?”

“No, but I think it’s a given.”

“Yeah, you’re right. So anyway, I finally release this beast from my body and I swear on my mother’s grave…”

“Your mother lives in Boca Raton.”

Otis keeps on talking, “…I wept like a 14 year old girl trying to get Justin Beiber’s attention.”

There is so much wrong with his statement that I decide to try and decode it another time…when I’m not feeling so dirty. “Otis, so far I’m not hearing any problems, excluding the Bieber reference, which I personally find disturbing.”

“Bottom line, I’m having some control issues. Yes, it was the size of a Cornish hen, but I’ve handled worse with ease.  I should’ve been able to unload this baby half asleep.”

“Not sure I’m following you.”

“I think my slicer is broken.”

“Your slicer?”

“You think great farts and craps just happen? No fucking way. The memorable ones are all created by a well tuned slicer.”

“You mean your anus?”

I can hear Otis’s frustration with me, “Anus is an ugly word, like crotch and smegma. You can’t pretty those words up. I think slicer sounds more distinguished.”

“You’re calling me about you’re anus?”

“Basically. Yeah.”

“Have you thought about calling a proctologist?”

“What are they gonna do besides charge me a hundred and eighty bucks and make me feel like a Penn Station hooker?”

He had a point, not that I’ve ever been with a Penn Station hooker, I’m just assuming. “Maybe it’s just a phase that’ll work it’s way out, like a sprained ankle.”

Otis sounds desperate, “I don’t think you understand, it’s not working right. I used to have control, I could make an explosive fart whisper out quieter than the flutter of a butterfly’s wings. I could liberate a crap the size of a Sarah Lee pound cake before I had my morning coffee.”

“Maybe it’s something in your diet? You eating a lot of flax seed?”

I hear a big sigh, “Look I don’t think you realize how serious this is, I can’t be that old guy who stands in front of you in the check-out line and rips a musty potato chip fart and then acts like nothing happened. Right now I feel like I got one leg in my old world and one leg in a pair of Depends. This is bad. Really, really….hold on one second Casey is at the door again.” I hear her small voice muffled through the phone. “Nothing is bad sweetheart, daddy is just talking to a friend…no I’m not eating potato chips, daddy doesn’t eat in the bathroom. Okay, move away from the door, I’ll be right out.”

I whisper as if his daughter can hear me, “Is she still there?”

He whispers back, “I think so.”

“Maybe we should talk later.”

He’s still whispering, “Hey, promise me you won’t make fun of me if I accidentally fart while we’re having dinner with the wives or something.  You know I would’ve made it silent if I could’ve. I’ve got manners.”

“Didn’t your father-in-law catch you taking a crap in his cat’s litter box?”

“The guy invites the whole family over for Thanksgiving and he’s got one toilet. Besides, I was gonna scoop it out before I left.”

“You allowed back over there yet?”

“Not really.”

I’m not sure what else to say that could make Otis feel better. “Okay, I gotta go, but I’m sure your slicer is fine. Maybe you need try eating foods that bind you a little more, like cheese and matzo.”

Otis sounds hopeful, “You think that’ll work?”

I’m doubtful, but lie, “Definitely.”

“I’m thinking of doing clenching exercises when I’m in the car too, maybe it’s getting loose from not getting worked out enough.”

I never thought I’d hear a friend tell me his asshole needs a better exercise regime, “Sure, I think Schwarzenegger used to clench back when he was competing.”

Otis sounds a little more relaxed, “Okay, well thanks for listening to me. Have a good night, say hi to Pam and the kids for me.”

I decide it’s best not to mention anything about this conversation to Pam if I ever want to have Otis over to the house again. “Yeah, sure. Take care.”


It’d be easy to write this discussion off as an anomaly, and Otis as an outlier, but sadly, neither is true. This is what we talk about. It’s meaningless, and idiotic.  It’s not that we don’t want to communicate, it’s that we don’t want to communicate about anything that is important. I believe it’s one of the reasons so many guys like sports. Sure we love the competition and the camaraderie, but we also love that we can talk about something, without talking about anything.

An epilogue about Otis and his slicer.

About two weeks after that call my phone rang again, this was a totally different Otis. His voice was upbeat and full of energy. I had barely got the phone to my ear when he started talking,

“Yo, just wanted you to know, emergency averted. I’m back to my old self. My slicer is back bitches!”

“That’s great, how’d you do it?”

“Kicked it old school, Tucks medicated hemorrhoid pads.  My slicer is tighter than a Olympic gymnast’s ass, and that’s not creepy, because it’s a compliment.”

“Sounds creepy coming from you.”



I wrote this a while ago and sat on it because it’s a big departure from what I usually post, but I felt like it was time to let it air out.

I found this article in the New York Times (a bastion of liberalism, but if you’d like to read the conservative version you’ll find it here, ). Take a moment to read it, and then let’s meet on the other side, to discuss.

Arizona: Hospital Loses Catholic Affiliation


Published: December 22, 2010

Bishop Thomas J. Olmsted of Phoenix announced on Tuesday that St. Joseph’s Hospital and Medical Center could no longer identify itself as Roman Catholic because it violated church teachings by ending a woman’s pregnancy in 2009. Hospital administrators said the procedure was necessary to save her life, and stood by their decision even after Bishop Olmsted excommunicated a nun on the hospital ethics committee. The hospital, which receives no money from the Phoenix diocese, can no longer hold Masses. But Catholics can continue to work and be treated there.

It’s not surprising that the Catholic Church is upset by an abortion, although I do find holding that stance, at the risk of having one of your own die, seems a little counter-productive. No, what I find surprising is that a mega corporation like the Catholic Church could be so clueless when it comes to controlling the spin. There is no way you can chastise a whole hospital and excommunicate a nun, for saving someone’s life, without looking like a douche. The only company that is worse at spinning their message is Microsoft, although I don’t think Microsoft has been quite as profitable.

But I digress, let’s get back to our news story.

This pregnant woman was not a 27 year old who had an unprotected threesome with some guys she met on, and then, realizing that having a baby would ruin her chances at being “America’s Next Top Model” went to have an abortion.

The patient was suffering from right heart failure and her doctors told her that if she continued the pregnancy her chances of dying were nearly 100%. Moving her to another hospital was impossible and for the staff who was caring for her, it was either lose two lives or save one. Now, I don’t know Jesus personally, but I have a feeling he’d be okay with the doctors saving this woman’s life. Jesus doesn’t seem like the kind of guy who was an asshole.

Of course Bishop Olmsted, who has zero medical training didn’t see it that way. He wrote, “In this case, the baby was healthy and there were no problems with the pregnancy; rather, the mother had a disease that needed to be treated. But instead of treating the disease, St. Joseph’s medical staff and ethics committee decided that the healthy, 11-week-old baby should be directly killed.”

Yeah, that’s what doctors do all the time, avoid treating diseases and kill babies. I think they have a class for that in medical school.

By the way, Bishop Olmsted is the same principled religious leader who refused communion to a boy because he was autistic.

Equally disturbing is the ex-communication of a Sister Margret McBride. “She consented in the murder of an unborn child,” says the Rev. John Ehrich, the medical ethics director for the Diocese of Phoenix. “There are some situations where the mother may in fact die along with her child. But — and this is the Catholic perspective — you can’t do evil to bring about good. The end does not justify the means.”

Just so we’re all on the same page, Sister McBride has a Bachelor of Science in nursing and a Masters in Public Administration, which by any definition makes her qualified (even over-qualified) to be an administrator and a member of the ethics committee at St. Joseph’s.  Women like this don’t become nuns every day, so the thought of ex-communicating her, for making a decision that I’m guessing was incredibly painful to make, runs against the whole idea of putting an experienced person in a decision making role. But Bishop Olmsted doesn’t roll that way. He said, “Sister Margaret McBride, a vice president of the hospital, had excommunicated herself because she approved the procedure.”

He didn’t do this, she did this to herself. By the way, how many Catholic priests have been ex-communicated for their roles in the sexual abuse of children? That would be zero.

The best (or worst part) of this story for me is where the Bishop tells St. Joseph’s Hospital that it can no longer identify itself as Roman Catholic because it broke their rules. But being a man of God, the Bishop did say that Catholics could still continue to work and be treated at the hospital.

I’m sure all the Catholic patients in intensive care and the employees,  barely getting by on hospital wages, breathed a collective sigh of relief when this decision was handed down.

Benevolently, the Bishop did give the Hospital the option to be “re-identified as Catholic”, all they had to do was agree to his demands.

1) The Bishop wanted the hospital to give him more oversight of its practices to ensure it complies with Catholic health-care rules.

2) Provide education on those rules to medical staff.

3) Acknowledge the Bishop was correct in the dispute over what he deemed an abortion.

“Arrogant”, just doesn’t seem like a strong enough word.

Finally, let’s just say for the sake of an argument that this hospital decided to go the other direction and the woman and the baby died, would the Bishop be okay with that? Would he mourn her as a martyr who died for the sake of her child? Would the Catholic Church pick up the tab for the lawsuit her parents would surely bring, claiming the hospital and the doctors didn’t do everything they could do to save their daughter’s life?

I’m gonna guess, “no”.

It’s obvious why people are anti-abortion, in fact I want to say no one is “pro-abortion”, although there is always some numb-nut who decides to take an indefensible stand for the sake of being an jerk-off. But for any person, or couple, who has had to make the agonizing decision to terminate a pregnancy, and I have, it is not something you take lightly, or take great pride in. But sometimes hard decisions have to be made, and it is the right to make this difficult decision that Roe V. Wade was all about.

But this whole thing isn’t really about abortion, it’s about making decisions for the population at large, based on someone’s particular religious beliefs. We shouldn’t make medical decisions or choose a president based on what Jesus would want. I can’t figure out what my wife wants most of the time and we’ve been together for nearly 20 years.

And just to be clear, I have nothing against the Catholic Church or any religion for that matter. People need something to believe in, something to belong to, I get it and I don’t begrudge them. What I do I have is three very simple rules when it comes to religion. I’m okay with any belief as long as (a) you don’t ask me to believe it (b) you aren’t hurting anyone (c) everyone is a consenting adult. If you follow these rules, I don’t give a shit if you pray to goats and your holy scripture is the instruction panel off a Fleet Enema box, your religious beliefs are okay with me.

Look, I don’t profess to have all the answers, or all of the right answers, but I do have a daughter. If she were in the position that this woman was in, I would mourn the loss of the unborn child, but would celebrate that my daughter was still with me. Apparently, the Bishop, an unmarried, childless man doesn’t understand that, which is sort of surprising since I thought a main tenets of the church’s foundation is understanding, acceptance and forgiveness.

I may not understand the Bishop’s rationale, but I do see the irony.

Fly Like The Wind

When I was a kid, I had an Uncle Harvey who wasn’t right.  His head was too big for his body, he was unemployed, unshaven and understandably unmarried.  On top of that, my brother’s and I, couldn’t figure out how we were related to him.  I asked my dad, but generally the response was, “Don’t ask so many questions” or “What are you doing, writing a book?” or “I’m not really your father.”  The last one was just a ruse to change the subject. He was my dad, he just wasn’t happy about it.

The only thing that Harvey was passionate about was NASCAR.  Every year for the Daytona 500 he would show up at our front door, with a big grin on his face, a snack-sized bag of ridged Lays and a 6 pack of Tab dangling from his hand.  I think he liked coming to our house because we had a color TV and air conditioning and judging from the number of times he went to the bathroom, indoor plumbing.

Most people watch auto racing for the crashes, but Harvey watched for the pit stops.  As soon as a car screeched to a stop Harvey would whip out his stopwatch and start cheering, “Fly like the wind! Fly like the wind!” Which always seemed like a strange chant for a NASCAR pit crew, but since I wasn’t a NASCAR fan, I figured he knew best.  I imagined that at one point in his life Harvey worked on a pit-crew, maybe he was the guy the jacked the car up or bolted the tires on, but judging by Harvey’s body shape, chances are he was the guy that handed the driver a drink, probably Tab.

One year he showed up bearing gifts. “Official” pit crew jerseys with our names sewn over the chest pockets. We grudgingly put them on and sat there watching cars driving in a big circle, which is when I concluded that car racing is for idiots. Very few sports require less of their fans than auto racing.  You don’t have to follow a score, the rules are pretty simple, and as far as strategy it looks pretty straightforward (go fast).  I’m sure there is a lot going on behind the scenes, but if you can watch a sport from the roof of a Winnebago, drunk, sunburned, and only able to see 300 yards of a 2.5 mile track, there is no way you can say you are “involved” in the race. Especially when you take into consideration that a car traveling 230 miles an hour probably covers that 300 yards in 2 seconds. Imagine if you went to a football game, but you could only see 10 yards of the field, and when the team was on that ten yards they sprinted past at full speed. Not quite the same experience.

Regardless, Harvey loved the sport, and dressed in our pit crew shirts, we all feigned interest. Excluding my mom, she smiled and said, “I don’t want to interrupt all this male bonding.” And then turned and hightailed it out of the house. I watched her go making the same face a dog makes as he watches his owner leave for work. Sad, resigned, confused, angry and resigned again.

My father, whose modus operandi was to avoid rather than confront, decided the best way to get Harvey to stop coming over was to not be home, which is what we did the following Daytona 500. I should’ve known something was up when my father hustled us out of the house at 6am on a Sunday morning.  I was still half-asleep and in my pajamas when my father pulled onto the shoulder of a highway and tossed each of us a warm American cheese sandwich. When I asked what was going on, my father glared at me through the rear view mirror, “You said you wanted to go on a picnic, so we’re on a picnic. Now don’t get any cheese crumbs in my backseat!”  Then he slammed a Tom Jones 8-track into the stereo and sang along to “What’s New Pussycat?”.  In our house this was considered “quality family time”, but to most of the country it’s more commonly known as “lunch on cell block F”.

When we got home it was late and dark and Harvey was sitting on the front steps of our house, an empty bag of ridged Lays and four empty cans of Tab in front of him. Panicked, my father turned to me and my brothers and whispered that no matter what he said, we were to agree. Then he got out of the car and approached Harvey. I couldn’t hear what was being said, but I knew from his body language, dad was apologizing and Harvey was accepting it.  By the time I got up to them Dad and Harvey were both looking at me with long, sad faces. My father put his hand on my shoulder and said  “I was just telling Harvey how your pet rabbit, Mr. Fluffy, had to have emergency surgery.”  Harvey just stared at me.  It was an awkward, empty silence, so I decided to fill the void, “The vet told us if Mr. Fluffy’s hemorrhoids don’t improve they’ll have to remove his butt.”

There was another long pause, Harvey’s eyes went from me, slowly back to my father, which was when he started to sweat. I don’t think I’ve ever seen my father sweat so much, so quickly, in my entire life.  It was like he’d sprung a leak. His forehead, his upper lip, his underarms.  He was just one big sweaty mess. On top of that he broke into this weird nervous laugh.  It sounded just like the laugh Ricky O’ Randle made back in 2nd grade, when he inadvertently farted during the Thanksgiving play and a big turd rolled out his pant leg and onto the stage.

Left without many options my dad threw me under the bus saying, “This one got dropped on his head, he’s y’know….” And made the international sign for “crazy” by circling his temple with his index finger.  He then put his arm around Harvey and started moving him towards the car, “Let me give you a ride home.” as he glared at me over his shoulder.

I was grounded for a week, I’m sure my punishment would’ve been worse if Dad hadn’t brought this all on himself.  He was the one who started the lie, he was the one who told me to continue the lie and he was the one who made the mistake of trusting me to make up a good lie.  If you ask me he was the one who should’ve been grounded, but my father always liked to point out that just having me around was punishment enough.


In 1978, like most everyone in 10th grade I had a fake ID, mine was my older brother’s license, which I had stolen from his wallet. I’m sure stealing your brother’s license is outlawed in Leviticus or Deuteronomy, but back then I didn’t live by God’s law, unless my mother said I had to, then I usually folded.

With my brother’s license in hand, a whole new world opened up to me, I called it heaven, but most called it Big Daddy’s Lounge. Big Daddy’s was a bar that was attached to a liquor store, and like most bars trying to capitalize on the disco craze, they put a parquet dance floor in, added a DJ , some lights and idiots like me showed up, trying to live out a Saturday Night Fever fantasy.

I would strut up to the door, confidently flash my “I.D.” at the bouncer and buy a Malibu and Coke (because it seemed like something the Bee Gees would drink). Then I’d hang at the edge of the dance floor, nodding my head to the beat, hoping that I could catch some girl’s eye, whereupon she would ask me to dance, realize I was awesome, buy me more Malibu and Cokes and take advantage of me sexually. I know it sounds more like a fantasy than a plan, but that’s because it was.

It was a Saturday night, the place was packed, everyone’s smoke was wreaking havoc with my sinusitis, and the Malibu and Coke I had been nursing for the last 90 minutes, was flat and flavorless. I was stationed where I always was, at the lip of the dance floor, between a six foot high speaker and the lady’s bathroom. My goal was to catch the attention of women as they rushed by, I called this the “Nod To The Ladies” move and it was something I picked up from Richard Gere in American Gigolo. Although, I have to admit, when I did it, I looked less like a hot guy rich women paid for sex, and more like a serial killer, who lives in his parent’s basement and has Ms. Pac Man on his “bangable women” list.

The DJ was segueing from Gerry Rafferty’s Baker Street to The B-52’s Rock Lobster and the room erupted into a frenzy of moving bodies. From across the room, this woman, easily 21, caught my eye. She was tall with blonde hair, cut into a Dorothy Hamill type bob. Hey eyes were blue and her teeth were so white they looked like they were lit from behind. I was smitten.

This was it, my “Nod To The Ladies” had finally paid off. I glanced at my watch and tried to calculate how long it would take her to get me drunk and have sex with me, figuring that if I had to, I would fake the getting drunk part so I could get home before my curfew.

When she was about fifteen feet from me I casually checked to make sure my 100% polyester Nik-Nik shirt, emblazoned with a Cherokee Indian on horseback, chasing down buffalo, was buttoned low enough. I wanted my mystery woman to see the puka bead necklace that was lying against the mat of chest hair I had painstakingly made look thicker with my mother’s mascara brush.

She was about ten feet away when she smiled at me, and mouthed the words, “Hi, how are you?”. This was virgin territory for me, I had never rehearsed talking. In my fantasy I never needed to talk because she kept saying, “Don’t talk, I need to drink your hotness in.” So I went with what felt natural, I mouthed back, “Groovy, and you?”

I made a mental note that I needed to come up with sexier replies.

Now she was seven feet away, she was spreading her arms. Shit! She wanted a hug! Should I stop thrusting my hips to the music now or is it okay to thrust through the hug? I decide that I should focus on the hug, stop thrusting my hips, and smile, adding a wink for good measure.

Five feet away, I wonder if she has bucket seats because I bruise easily and don’t want to get hurt when she drags me across the Hurst shifter I imagine sits in the console of her Trans Am.

From three feet away, I can see a sheen on her lips and hope that she went with bubble gum or watermelon lip gloss. Not that it matters, she could’ve had a herpes sore the size of a Gary Coleman on her upper lip and I’d have still made out with her.

Two feet away, I prepare for the embrace, although I’m feeling a little self conscious because of the erection that is making the pleated, high-waisted jeans my mom had bought in the Sears “Far Out” department look like I had a very small goiter next to my zipper. I have an anxiety attack. Will she be flattered or disgusted?  I make another mental note to carry a roll of quarters in my pocket so I’ll seem more substantial next time I’m in this position.

With my arms spread wide, she comes so close to me that I catch a whiff of her perfume, it’s either Charlie or Baby Soft, either way, it smells classy.

I was in the moment, I was in control, I was finally “the man”. The whole room slow down. Destiny was mine.

Then the strangest thing happens. She doesn’t stop, instead she walks right past me and into the open arms of Mark Fiesler.

Just to give you some reference.

This is me in high school (notice the pubestache)

And this is Mark Fiesler.

Mark Fiesler was in my grade in high school, and he was everything I wasn’t and wished I was. He had pop star good looks, with the kind of perfectly feathered hair that would’ve made Jan Michael Vincent envious. Mark’s smile was warm and inviting, and he could make conversation with anyone. I would’ve been happy with any of these qualities, especially the feathered hair, but Mark went beyond that. Mark was a jock, and not the big stupid bully kind, he was finesse. He was our quarterback and our star pitcher, striking out 21 batters in one game. But what made Mark most dangerous was that he was a nice guy. I really wanted him to be a dick, a complete and total asshole, but he wasn’t. It’s hard to hate someone who isn’t hateful.

Understanding my own shortcomings, my daily ploy was to use my sense of humor to make Mark laugh so I could hang with him in the hallways between classes. Like Mark’s own personal remora I hoped to get any of the cast off girls who lined up to get his attention. In reality, it was an abject lesson in how invisible I was and how easily being popular came to him.  I felt sure he was somehow stacking the deck by releasing sexual pheromones as he exhaled. I couldn’t smell it, but every woman’s antennae went up before he entered any room.

One time we were hanging in the hallway watching everyone walk by and without looking at me, as if he were talking to himself, he said, “Man, I haven’t gotten laid in two weeks.” I was shocked, I turned to him, “Two weeks! Two weeks! You’re looking at 17 years here! You have any idea what kind of backup you get from 17 years on the dry couch? Do you? I’m fucking dangerous, I rub against a doorjamb wrong and I could explode.” Mark laughed, “Keep hope alive Stein. Keep hope alive.” Then he turned and walked off to class.

Fucking bastard.

As “Rock Lobster” segued into “Hot Blooded” by Foreigner I watched my blonde fall deep into Mark’s embrace. Somebody was getting laid, but it wasn’t going to be me. I was tempted to turn and explain that she was making a mistake, that if she knew me, she’d prefer me, but it would’ve fallen on deaf ears. Mark had “it”. I also had “it”, but my “it” included astigmatism and the uncanny ability to tell my friend Mike what he’d eaten by the smell of his farts.

In 2000, I heard Mark was going to show up for the 20 year reunion and I secretly hoped he would be fat and bald, but he wasn’t. He was still handsome, with that fucking dreamy smile, doe eyes and perfectly feathered hair. He still had “it” and I was devastated. When he saw me he put his hand on my shoulder and told me I looked good. We talked for a little bit, as the girls from our class fluttered by, still hoping to catch his attention.

I don’t remember how the night ended, but I don’t think I gave him a proper goodbye, tell him that I liked him, give him a hug, see if I could get him to laugh. You never really think about that until you realize you’re never going to get a chance to do it.

On June 10th 2011 Mark passed away.

I always thought one of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made was not telling the people who I cared about how much they meant to me. You graduate high school and all these people who were intricately involved in shaping your life suddenly disappear and you don’t say anything because you aren’t mature enough and you don’t have enough perspective to know you should. And then you graduate college and the same thing happens.

So I’ve started making a point of telling people who’ve made a difference in my life that I care about them. That they are important to me. I give big hugs and in fits of emotion tell friends that I love them.

I have no idea what had become of Mark, what his life was like, where he had been living, or why he died. None of that is really important. I only hope he passed painlessly, surrounded by the people he loved…and I hope they had a chance to tell him how important he was to them.

Getting Drilled

In 1984, New Orleans hosted the World’s fair, or as it was called then, The New Orleans World Exposition. The experts predicted huge numbers and New Orleans pulled out all the stops, spending 350 million dollars to get ready for the expected crowds. They developed the warehouse district and as their big attraction built the “MART” (The Mississippi Ariel River Transit).  The MART was a gondola that would whisk you from downtown New Orleans, across the Mississippi, to beautiful Algiers Louisiana. I always wondered how many tourists boarded the MART thinking they were headed to the French Quarter, only to be dumped in Algiers, a town where flashing your tits is an acceptable form of ID.

Without much of a plan that summer I figured getting a job at the exposition would be a great experience,  a way to get a taste of the blue collar life before I headed out to what I imagined my future held. A world full of martini lunches, country clubs and phony dismay at the plight of the working class.

After an arduous battery of interviews I was placed at the petroleum pavilion, which was sponsored by a conglomeration of oil companies and was designed to look like an offshore oil rig. An apropos design choice given that a sewage line backup during our second week of operations resulted in a river of urine and feces that had to be contained in a makeshift waste pond at the “One World Beer Garden”.

The first floor of the my pavilion was a giant fish tank containing a beautiful collection of tropical fish, all swimming around faux-barnacles that were attached to the faux-legs of the faux-drilling platform. This peaceful scene was faux-living evidence that drilling platforms and sea-life could faux-exist harmoniously.

The next floor had a multi-screen audio-video presentation, that showed the happy faces of oil company employees, most of whom looked like Magnum P.I. or the professor from Gilligan’s Island. At the end of the montage, the music rose to a dramatic crescendo as a deep, warm, voice intoned, “Oil, safe today, safe tomorrow.” Which rates up there with Tyson’s “It’s what your family deserves” and Cigna’s “A business of caring” as some of the most meaningless and ironic slogans ever written.

Finally on the roof of the pavilion was a working, full-size replica of an oil drilling platform. They even took the extra step of bringing in real rough-necks from off-shore to pretend drill for oil every 20 minutes. This is where I worked, not doing the drilling, but standing there with a microphone explaining to the common man what was going on. They provided a script, but it wasn’t me, so I decided to give it my unique voice. I would keep my tone and attitude somewhere between helpful and condescending as I said things like, “…an oil rig is like a giant straw, sucking the life milk from mother earth’s breast, so I can drive, instead of walk, to Hooters.”

Management’s goal was to make sure the oil rig illusion was authentic, so all of the white, college educated, “Oil Platform Associates” were given one royal blue 100% polyester jumpsuit to ensure that we looked just like roughnecks. The idea was to give the pavilion the veneer of being a real, working, off-shore oil rig without the danger of an explosion or an underage Philippino crew to cook and clean.

I’m not sure if you’ve ever experienced a New Orleans summer , but the humidity envelops you like warm chicken fat. It seeps through doors and windows and is nearly impervious to air conditioning. Now, add a 100% polyester, royal blue, jumpsuit to the equation and it’s like coating yourself in Vaseline and wrapping yourself in Saran Wrap. Wearing the jumpsuit was punishment, giving us only one of them was downright mean.

Yet, even with my one rancid jumpsuit I was a becoming a bit of a minor celebrity. Which says less about my magnetic personality and more about how little talent it takes to be famous. Visitors asked to take pictures with me and children wanted my autograph. As a matter of principle I never charged for either, which I think people appreciated. No one likes a celebrity who thinks they’re superior, even if it’s true.

Every once in a while a VIP, with a small entourage, would be escorted through our pavilion, which is how I met Rhonda. Rhonda was the official exposition chauffer. She was older than me and had hair that came from the Jon Bon Jovi playbook. Dry. Frizzy. Bleached. Her uniform was meant to give the VIP’s the feeling that they were in capable hands, so she wore a pant’s suit with gold and red piping. I thought it made her look more like a member of a marching band than a chauffer, which was oddly sexy. And in a nod to how classy this exposition was, Chrysler, who was sponsoring their own pavilion, loaned out an example of pure American luxury, a 1984 LeBaron stretch limo. A car that looked and handled like an elongated Lego brick.

Rhonda and I would meet late at night, after she got off work, and drink while she gossiped about the celebrities she catered to all day, “Did you know Emilio Estevez has a lazy eye?”. I liked Rhonda, she was different from the girls I knew in college. She was older, working class, and she talked in third person. Also, she was an alcoholic, which seemed sort of dangerous and exotic. She would chase her beers with a shot of tequila, screaming to no one in particular, “Rhonda says, chocolate is a bitch!”.  Nervous I didn’t have my own drinking slogan, I quickly came up with, “I love wood!”. At the time it seemed like it struck the right balance of enthusiasm and complete ambiguity. Of course, a few nights later, while drinking with Rhonda at a gay bar, on S & M night, I realized that screaming “I LOVE WOOD!” might not have been the best choice and quickly changed it to, “I HAVE AN STD!”

I’m not quite sure what the exposition management was thinking when they told Rhonda to take the limo home every night, but I loved being chauffeured around town, so I never questioned it. And this being New Orleans, no one ever questioned the official New Orleans World Exposition limo driver when she walked in and drank, to excess, with the stretch LeBaron parked outside. In fact, I think you could say it was unilaterally endorsed. Everywhere we went, restaurant managers and bartenders, looking for a leg up on Rhonda’s VIP’s would give her an open tab. For the first time as an adult my vodka wasn’t being poured from a plastic jug, and at that moment I felt like my life was nearly perfect:

•  I was a minor celebrity.

•  Sleeping with a woman who drove me around in a limo.

•  I was eating and drinking like a Kennedy.

•  I had my weekends free.

• A full head of hair.

• I could crap without breaking into a sweat.

The only downside to the relationship was Rhonda’s alcoholism, which is a lot more entertaining when she’s not putting cigarettes out in stranger’s forearms or hair or dinner. Also, alcoholics don’t remember much of what they do when they’re drunk and they tend to pass out. I always thought the blacking out thing was an old wives’ tale, like “stepping on ants brings rain” or “covering yourself with tuna fish and jumping into a refrigerator box of kittens will get you arrested”. The worst part of her “episodes” was that she had no memory of how awesome I was in bed. I’m used to hearing, “That’s it? You’re done?”, but being told, “When did you get here? Hold on, Rhonda has to puke.” really hurt my ego, so I decided our days as a couple were numbered. I just needed a way to do it that wouldn’t be confrontational. I was never very good at breakups, or at least not as good as the people who broke up with me. They always seemed totally fine, even joyous.

It was a around 4:00AM, Rhonda was driving me home after a particularly raucous evening that turned into a morning of partying. I was stretched out in the rear passenger seat, behind the privacy partition, because Rhonda had a habit of releasing beer farts, then turning the heat on, locking the windows, and screaming, “Rhonda heard you want a clam Bake!”.  Rhonda was pure elegance and sophistication.

We were stopped for a red light, “Caribbean Queen” by Billy Ocean was over-modulating from the factory issue speakers, when I noticed Rhonda starting to rub her eyes with her fists. This was the first sign she was headed for a snooze. The second sign was her passing out, which is exactly what she did next.

With the privacy window up, the fastest way to get to Rhonda was exiting the rear door, then opening the front passenger door, jumping in and somehow putting the car in park or steering it to a safe place. That was the plan at least, but as soon as I stepped out of the LeBaron it began to roll. In a panic I looked through the passenger side window and I could see that Rhonda was deep into a six to eight hour siesta. Her head was hanging loosely against the driver’s side window, and her foot had slid over from the brake to the gas pedal. I tried to open the passenger door, but it was locked, and now the car was picking up speed and heading towards a Popeye’s Fried Chicken. I knew I had to do something, but being self aware, I also knew that I’m not that fast or strong or most importantly, brave.  (If I may stop here for a brief moment; while we have all witnessed a runaway car scene in countless movies, the reality of being a hero is nothing like the fantasy. Of course I wouldn’t know for sure, since I shy away from heroic acts. Helping people is exhausting, and besides, I don’t like most people, especially when they are needy, and in particular, in need of me.)

I was now jogging next to the car, but I couldn’t open the car door or stop the car. The choices in front of me were limited, but in that split second, my mind cleared, I knew what I had to do.

I started banging on the passenger window, screaming at the limp figure in the front seat, “Rhonda! Rhonda! Can you hear me?!?” Still no reply, she was out cold, but I wasn’t ready to give up. I banged even harder, “Rhonda! You gotta wake up!” The car was picking up speed, it was now or never. I banged on the roof, screaming through the closed window, “I know this might not be the best time to say this, but  I don’t think we should see each other anymore! It’s not you…well actually it is you, but….” I couldn’t keep up any longer, the car was moving too fast, my voice drifted off as I watched the official New Orleans World Exposition stretch Chrysler LeBaron plow through the front of a Popeye’s Fried Chicken. The burglar alarm went off, glass was everywhere and the metal counter was folded and bent like a crumpled piece of paper.

I realize it would’ve been nice to break up with Rhonda when she was conscious, or stick around to make sure she wasn’t injured, or call the police, but sometimes the “right” thing doesn’t feel right until you’ve had some space and time to reflect. And by space and time I mean 4-5 miles and at least a week.

Needless to say, Rhonda lost her job. It wasn’t her blood alcohol level that did her in, but rather that she had driven the exposition’s only limo through a Popeyes. The only other car Chrysler was willing to loan the exposition was a Plymouth Reliant, a car built for people who found Splenda too exciting.

I doubt New Orleans’ historians would point to this incident as the beginning of the end, but it was. The Times Picayune picked up the story running a snarky headline that read, “Exposition VIP’s Love Their Popeye’s”.  And all of this came at a time in the exposition’s life when the last thing it needed was another embarrassing story. Attendance was down, pavilions were starting to lose their sheen and due to mismanagement and dubious bookkeeping, employees paychecks had started to bounce. The exposition had to declare bankruptcy, forcing the government to step in and bail it out. Not surprisingly, this was the last World’s Fair ever produced on U.S. soil.

For a lot of people, all of this bad press made New Orleans a bit of a joke on an international stage, but I disagree. New Orleans invited the world, threw a great party and got someone else to pay for it. Seems pretty smart to me.

About ten months later my phone rang, it was Rhonda, she was doing a 12 step program and wanted to make amends with me. We got together at a coffee shop and I, of course, accepted her apology, and on a whim decided that I should make amends too.

So I began apologizing for abandoning her in a moving car, passed out, headed for a Popeye’s.


….and then right before you hit the glass plate windows I broke up with you. (I laugh). If you want, since you missed it the first time, I can break up with you again.

Not the best apology, but I expected her to see the humor in the whole situation and understand, but instead she just stared at me, blankly. Finally she said:


Y’know when Rhonda woke up in the hospital, she was thinking how glad she was that you weren’t in the car. The last thing Rhonda wanted to do was to hurt an innocent person.

I was really touched.


When you see Rhonda, tell her thanks for thinking of me.

When the police arrived, I was still in the fetal position, trying to defend myself from Rhonda’s onslaught of punches and kicks. And as her anger rained down on me, I suddenly felt alive, I had accomplished my goal. I wanted that summer to be an experience, and here it was, my real life, as an obnoxious, self-centered, privileged college student was colliding with my fake life as a blue collar, roughneck. Now I just wanted it to end, before she ruptured my kidneys with another kick to my back.


I found this flyer when I was location scouting in another state.

It was just too good to pass up.

[The phone rings three times before someone answers. It’s a teenage girl’s voice, I can hear that she’s eating something].

Girl: Hello.

Me: Hi, I’m calling about Oreo.

 Girl: Hol’ on.

[She covers the mouthpiece, but I can hear her screaming into the distance.]

Girl (cont’d): Mommy! Some guy’s on the phone about Oreo!

[There’s a pause, then she screams back into the distance.]

Girl (cont’d): Let me ask’em!

[She gets back on the phone with me.]

Girl (cont’d): Where’d you find’em?

Me: Who?

Girl: Oreo.

Me: Oh, I didn’t.

Girl: You mean he’s dead?

[She covers the mouthpiece and screams into the distance again.]

Girl (cont’d): Mommy, Oreo’s dead!

[There’s another pause, then she screams back into the distance.]

Girl (cont’d): You wanna know, you ask’em!

[She gets back on the line with me.]

Girl (cont’d): You’re gonna need to talk to my moms, Oreo was hers. That duck was an asshole. All he did was walk around and leave green shits everywhere. I hope you don’t wanna bring’em back here. Especially if he’s dead.

Me: I don’t have Oreo.

Girl: You ate him?

Me: What? No, I didn’t eat him.

Girl: It’s alright if you did, people eat duck all the time. I went to a Chinese restaurant once, they had roast duck with pineapple, what the fuck is that about?  My grandmother always said meat and fruit is like cupcakes and vodka, they just don’t belong together.

[Before I can respond the other line picks up. A woman clears her throat. Then she screams so the girl can hear her, even though she’s still on the phone.]


Girl: Jesus Christ Mom, why you screaming? I’m on the phone!

Woman: Don’t you take the lord’s name in vain young lady!

[As the girl hangs up the phone I can hear her say “bitch” under her breath.]

Woman: So you’re calling about Oreo?

[From the sound of her voice I’m guessing she’s in her 50’s and either smokes or used to smoke. Her words are wrapped in a phlegmy gook that make them sound callous.]

Me: Uhhh…yeah.

Woman: Well if he’s dead, I’m ain’t paying no reward. That reward money is only if he’s alive. And don’t try bringing over some other duck. Some jerkoff tried to pass off a Welsh Harlequin as my Oreo, nearly kicked him in his man tonsils.

[I think I know where my “man tonsils” are located, but I’m not positive.]

Me: I don’t have Oreo.

Woman: Oh, then you know where he is?

Me: No.

[Her tone changes, it’s a sneer and I’m glad I’m not standing in front of her, because if I was, I’d cover my man tonsils.]

Woman: Then why the fuck you calling me?

Me: I saw your flyer and was fascinated by the story.

Woman: What story?

Me: Yours. Oreo’s.

Woman: Is this a crank call? I don’t like perverts calling me at home.

[I wonder if she’s okay with perverts calling her at work.]

Me: Y’know, it takes a special person to rescue a wounded duck. You must love animals.

Woman: You got that right. Hell, if animals ruled the world, we wouldn’t have none of the problems we have now.

[I didn’t see any point in explaining that if animals ruled the world, we’d have a whole different set of problems, like not being eaten.]

Me: Did you have Oreo long?

Woman: Not particularly.

Me: But he was special?

Woman: Oh yeah, he was a real comedian, always doing funny stuff.

Me: Like what?

Woman: One time I was getting ready to leave for church, and he didn’t want me to go, so when I reached down to pet him on the head he bit me and I got blood all over my new Jacklyn Smith cardigan sweater.

[I don’t think anyone would find this funny, especially Jacklyn Smith, but I don’t want to hurt her feelings.]

Me: Sounds hilarious.

Woman: Yeah, he was a crack-up alright.

[Oreo sounded a bit like an asshole to me, but maybe he was more a physical comic like the other duck comedians, most notably, Daffy and Donald.]

Me: Sounds like you really love Oreo.

Woman: Y’know how some people got a soft spot in their hearts for retarded people? Well, I feel the same way ‘bout water fowl.

[Did she just say that?]

Me: Really? Water Fowl?

Woman: Any bird can fly, but it takes a special bird to fly and swim. It’s why I love geese and swans so much, but seagulls are shit. Little fucking scavengers is what they are.

Me: I’m pretty sure seagulls aren’t water fowl.

Woman: Well that’s a relief. Birds should kick’em out of the whole species. You’d never catch a swan eating out of a dumpster.

Me: Can’t say I’ve ever seen a swan at a dumpster.

Woman: I was at this store once and they was selling little wood carvings of seagulls and so I said to the girl, “You shouldn’t sell these seagull carvings because the good lord hates seagulls.”

Me: I thought the lord loved all living things.

Woman: Nope. He put some stuff here to test us. Like gnats, mosquitoes and koala bears. Them animals, just take up space and annoy the shit out of people.

[I’m starting to get a clearer picture of this woman and I’m wondering how many times she’s been arrested for public urination.]

Me: C’mon, koala bears are cute.

Woman: So are gay men, but I think we all know that they’re batting for Satan’s team.

[This isn’t going the way I thought it would, I decide to steer the conversation back to Oreo.]

Me: You have any idea how Oreo got injured?

Woman: Oh yeah, it was really horrible. When I first met Oreo he was just dropping in for stale bread and such, every now and again, and one day when Oreo had his back turned, Louise, my toy poodle jumped him like a Mexican gang member. Oreo probably outweighed Louise by a pound or two, but fuck if that little dog don’t have a fighter’s heart.

Me: Wow, that’s incredible.

Woman: I got’em separated and took Oreo to the vet, thought I was gonna lose him at first, but Dr. Jim stitched him up as good as new, only now he had this weird walk and he couldn’t fly no more. Which is why we named him Oreo.

Me: You named him Oreo because he couldn’t fly?

Woman: No, had nothing to do with him not flying.

Me: Then why Oreo?

Woman: He’s a white duck, but now he had this kind of pimp walk, so we figured since he was white on the outside, but black on the inside, he was like an Oreo. Melissa thought that up, pretty funny, right?

[I ignore the racist implications, and focus on something that I think she can grasp.]

Me: Actually, an Oreo is black on the outside, and white on the inside.

Woman: Shit! Forgot all about that.

[She covers the mouthpiece and I hear her scream into the distance.]

Woman: Melissa! Melissa! You can’t name Oreo, Oreo, ‘cause an Oreo is black on the outside, not the inside!

[There’s a pause.]

Woman: Well maybe you should give a shit!

[Another pause]

Woman: Hell no we can’t!

[There is a pause, I can hear her groan.]

Because, they is people who don’t appreciate that sort of talk! We can’t walk around the neighborhood screaming, “Here Whigger! Here Whigger!”

[She comes back on the phone with me.]

Woman: I suppose it doesn’t matter too much since we don’t know where he went off to anyways.

Me: Well, I hope he shows up.

[The girl picks up an extension in another room.]

Girl: Mom, can you drop me off at the mall? I found a buy one, get one free, coupon for the Piercing Pagoda and me and Dakota wanna get nose rings like Demi Lovato.

Woman: You can get a nose ring over my dead body!

Girl: Well if you’re gonna die, could you do it before the coupon expires!

[The girl slams the phone down. This time the woman doesn’t bother trying to muffle the handset.]


[She stops screaming, but I can hear her nicotine filled lungs gasping for oxygen. She comes back on the phone.]

Woman: Look, I gotta go, my daughter seems to have forgotten that I have killed people, it was an accident, but once you get the taste for it, you never forget it.

[I try to lighten the mood after that frightening revelation.]

Me: I feel the same way about pork.

Woman: What the fuck is that supposed to mean?

Me: Nothing….thanks for your time today. It was really nice talking to you. Good luck finding Oreo.

Woman: Yeah, nice talking to you too. Bye.

Me: Bye.

While many things may not be entirely clear, the reason Oreo left home is not one them.




My Longest Yard

In high school I belonged to U.S.Y., which is the acronym for United Synagogue Youth. There weren’t a lot of Jewish kids in my high school, so my parents felt like this was a good way for me to connect with kids my age. At the time, being in U.S.Y. seemed really cool, but in reality, if the highlight of your weekend is a mixer in the Alfred Blumenthal Social room, where the “Rhumba Off The Pounds” group just exited, you’ve got a social life that would bore an evangelical Christian .

The best part of belonging to U.S.Y. were the conventions. Every few months we would get on buses and travel to another city for the weekend and, under the auspices of learning about Judaism and Zionism, we’d try to hook up. This was speed dating, before there was speed dating. Within 45 minutes of getting off the bus you’d scope out the girls, the competition, then make your move. If you weren’t in a committed relationship by the time the Sabbath candles were lit on Friday night you were headed to the chairs with the kid whose mother cut his hair with a Flowbee and the girl whose nose was always runny. An entire love affair could sprout, blossom and die in the space of 48 hours. Which, until I was nearly 30 years old, were some of the longest relationships I had.

At some point during one of the conventions, some trash talking started and before we knew it, our synagogue had challenged the kids from the Jacksonville synagogue to a game of football. On the surface it doesn’t really sound like much. It’s a bunch of kids, it’s football, what’s the big deal? Well, there were two main stumbling blocks. The first, was that few of us had any athletic ability or played organized sports. There’s a big difference between being called a “cornerback” and “the–guy-who-guards-the-guy-who-is-trying-to-catch-the-ball”. Secondly, and perhaps more importantly, few of us had ever been shoved, hit, or tackled in the name of “sport”. The only time I could remember anyone actually trying to hit me, for the purpose of hurting me, was when Nathan Friedenberg, in the midst of a sugar buzz from eating his way through four boxes of Good & Plenty, tried a move he had seen on the TV show Kung Fu. Fortunately for me, Nathan was overweight and moved slow, even on sugar, and I easily side-stepped him. He ended up kicking a brick wall, breaking a toe and pulling his groin muscle.

Like most kids I dreamed of being a professional athlete when I grew up, never realizing that based on my inferior genetics I had as much chance of playing in the NFL as I did at having a certain Sears catalog bra model fall in love with me. If I may stop here for a moment, I would like to say to the people who run the Sear’s catalog that I’m sure Cassie (I’m not sure what her real name was) would’ve been flattered if she had received any of my hand-written notes. Having your lawyers send a cease and desist letter to an 8th grader was unnecessary. I would’ve eventually stopped sending ashtrays made out of used popsicle sticks, paper clips and Play-Doh.

As game day grew closer, my teammates and I threw ourselves into this challenge with gusto. We practiced twice a week, had a playbook and even had jersey’s made with nicknames on the back. Tragically, someone suggested that everyone who was a younger brother should have the same nickname as the older brother, only adding “Jr.” to make it sound snappy. This crap idea, which was void of any creativity, was made painfully more personal because my older brother wore glasses and was thus dubbed “Poindexter”, making me, “Poindexter Jr.”. As if being slow, small and uncoordinated wasn’t enough, I was now wearing a scarlet letter (actually 12 of them) across my back, making me a beacon to anyone on the opposing team who felt the need to drive someone into the dirt.

The coach made me a wide receiver because it was assumed I could do the least damage the further from the ball I was located. On the roster I was listed as the “special teams” wide receiver. I have since learned that “special” can mean many different things depending on how it’s used. In this case, “special” meant I sucked. Blissfully ignorant and happy just to be part of the team, I spent most of the game clapping my hands from the sidelines and yelling witty things like, “Let’s execute!”. Which I thought was particularly genius because it could mean, “let’s execute this play properly”, or, “let’s kill someone.” I didn’t care which way they took it, either was okay with me.

When I finally got into the game, the quarterback called “44 green-left”, a play that made me his fourth and final option. To put it bluntly, my responsibility on this play was to run around in circles until the ref blew a whistle. In layman’s terms, I wasn’t going to see the ball unless everything, including fumbling it forwards failed. As the huddle broke up I whispered to the quarterback, “You get the ball within 5 yards of me and I’ll catch it.” I held my hands up for him to see, “These hands are like Elmer’s fucking glue.” Then I slapped him on the ass, winked at him and trotted over to my place on the line.

What the quarterback, or the whole team for that matter, didn’t know, was how honest I was being. Unbeknownst to anyone I had brought a bottle of Elmer’s glue with me and was surreptitiously lathering my hands with the stuff every few minutes.

Halfway through the third quarter I was starting to feel a little woozy and assumed it was the heat. What hadn’t occurred to me was that the glue that had started on my hands, had migrated anyplace I wiped them, including my shirt, shorts, hair and most importantly, nose, mouth and eyes.

Here’s a few things most people don’t realize about passing out.  One, unlike tripping and falling, when you lose consciousness you’re brain just shuts down and you hit the ground with nothing to break your fall, but your face. Two, generally, but not always, when your brain shuts down, you lose control of your bowels. Three, sometimes people don’t realize that you’re passed out and just think you’ve fallen asleep, on your face.

You’d think someone, especially Poindexter, would notice that I was lying between an equipment bag and the trash can, in soiled shorts, but no one did. Fortunately a German Shepherd mix mistook me for a fire hydrant, and the owner alerted one of my teammates to my prone body.

When I regained consciousness I was in the back of an ambulance headed to a hospital. I probably should’ve been concerned that I wasn’t playing football anymore, but due to a genocide of brain cells all I kept saying was, “I ride in the loud car. I ride in the loud car.” Which was then followed by my very annoying impersonation of the ambulance siren.

We won the game and my team came to the hospital to present the game ball to me as if they were playing out a scene from Brian’s Song. The team captain made a moving speech about how I had gone above and beyond, risking my own health, for the sake of the team. It was a really touching moment that probably would’ve had more meaning if the nurses hadn’t also been in the room trying to unglue my hand from my nut sack.

Lloyd Stein © 2011


Pool Shot

When I was in 7th grade my family moved to Florida. On paper it sounded great, but what I didn’t realize at the time is that there’s a big difference between “vacation Florida” and “residential Florida”.

“Vacation Florida” is that hot, random, hookup you meet in the hotel bar, who is fresh and exciting and beautiful.

“Residential Florida” is that same hookup, only now it’s daytime, and you notice her head is shaped like a block of cheddar cheese and you’re not at the hotel anymore, now you’re visiting her at the one bedroom mobile home she’s squatting in with her “brother” Carter, who wears camouflage, and thinks Hamburger Helper is a communist plot to overtake the beef industry.

You understand the difference?

Yes, there are a lot of people who love Florida, but there are people who love to dress up in furry animal costumes and have sex. Just because you love it, doesn’t make it right (especially if you’re dressed as Mickey Mouse and you’re banging Yogi Bear from behind).

Most of my family and friends who live in Florida are really good people, although I’m fairly sure something is wrong with every one of them. There’s no other way to explain how, or why, a person would subject themselves to that sort of heat and humidity unless you felt you were a piece of shit and deserved to be punished. Which accounts for so many Jews ending up in Florida. No one can self-hate like my people.

Summer in Florida is without a doubt the most disgusting time of year. When you walk outdoors you feel like you are walking through a bathroom hand dryer forcing out hot, wet, snot. You immediately begin to perspire in a way that you didn’t think you could, from places that shouldn’t have sweat glands. Between your front door and your car door, you are transformed into human fly-paper. Anything within the airspace of you and the Hubble telescope sticks to you. Including, but not limited to, sand, small reptiles and the occasional senior citizen.

Many would argue that the beach is the best place to go if you want relief from the heat, but unless they’ve figured out how to get air conditioning to the beach, I’ll stay indoors. It’s not that I don’t like the beach, it’s just that getting skin cancer and having to use kerosene to get the tar balls, that float in the ocean like schools of wild turds, off my body, is not my idea of “fun”.

My father felt air conditioning, along with touch tone phones and TV remote controls, were a luxury the elite used.  He would turn the AC on when the humidity reached the point at which the wall-paper began to peel off the walls. By the summer of 10th grade I could no longer take it, I needed a plan.

Unfortunately, like most every plan I’ve ever had, this one was ill-conceived, self-serving and destined to fail. Of course, I didn’t realize it at the time, because I’m too selfish and short sighted to look beyond my immediate needs.  Instant gratification has always been an issue for me and the reason for a frantic call to 911 after an embarrassing episode with Jergens body lotion and a Dirt Devil hand vacuum.

My “plan” was simple. Get invited to people’s homes so I could take a refreshing dip in their pool and enjoy the spoils of the “elite”.  At least it seemed simple until I listed the people I knew who had a pool and would invite me over. Funny thing, after I crossed off the people who I knew, but would never invite me, and the people who had a pool and a restraining order against me, I was left with no one.

I needed to expand my circle of friends and the best way to do that was to change the definition of “friend”.  Let’s face it, what does “friend” truly mean? You might meet someone at a party, talk for a while, and exchange numbers, would you call them a friend?  I would.  Although, I find it hurtful when people call me “stalker” when they really mean “friend”. Regardless, I expanded the definition of “friend” to include anyone who had a pool.

That summer you would’ve thought I was running for a political office.  I was showing up at birthday’s, bar mitzvahs, even a couple of sweet sixteens.  I found that if I had a present in hand I could usually get in and get out before anyone noticed.  My goal was a dip in the pool and no punches thrown at me.  If I could accomplish that, it was a good day.

Eventually, crashing the parties got a little too stressful.  I needed to make sure I knew the names of whose party it was, had to have the right present and most importantly be dressed right. It was getting to be like work, which I try to avoid at all costs.

I needed a new plan and the idea came to me one morning when I mistakenly set my alarm for 7:00am instead of 9:00am.  Getting out of my house earlier than usual, it dawned on me that people went to a job every day.  This meant there were lots of unattended homes that could use some attending.  This probably would’ve dawned on most people much earlier, but things don’t occur to me until it’s usually too late.  Which explains why, in my senior year of college, I didn’t notice that the woman who was buying me drinks in the French Quarter had a 5:00 shadow until I bumped into “her” in an brightly lit men’s bathroom using a urinal.

My new plan was considerably better than my last one. The trick became finding the right house.  Obviously it had to be empty, but it also had to be shielded from any neighbors, which is how I ended up at the residence of the Rajus.  The Rajus were a hard-working Indian family that had moved to the states as immigrants. Mr. Raju was the owner of Curry In A Hurry, which stood in the mall food court between Orange Julius and Hot Dog On A Stick.  People liked his food, but I never ate there because I stay away from food that looks like diarrhea.

This was truly a family operation, with Mr. Raju in the kitchen and Mrs. Raju working the counter. In the summer the kids were required to put in at least 5 days of work, which is probably why the Raju kids did so well in school. I would’ve been a Rhoades Scholar if the only way to avoid serving spicy food to pimply faced, obnoxious, teens, was good grades.

The Raju’s house was a modest split level with a six foot fence that surrounded the back yard.  From the outside it looked like everyone’s else’s house, but what people didn’t know was that Mr. Raju’s hobby was landscaping and he had turned his backyard into an oasis.

The yard was a lush carpet of green grass that was intersected with pebble paths that ended in meditation areas and koi ponds. The centerpiece of the property was a kidney shaped pool that had a small Jacuzzi on one end and a sliding board on the other. Next to the pool, under a lattice canopy, sat four chaise lounges. The only way this could get any better was if they had topless waitresses serving Hot Pockets and St. Pauli Girl.

Making this plan work meant I would have to be punctual and stick to a routine, which up until that moment, were completely foreign concepts to me. But I was committed to this, so every morning I would park in front of their house and watch the family trudge out to their station wagon, heading to another miserable day of work. Once I was sure they were gone I would act like I was there to clean the pool. Walking to the house with confidence, a bucket and skimmer in hand, I would head to the gate by the side of the house, pop it open and make myself at home.

In my bucket was everything I needed, a small cooler with some food and drinks, a towel and a radio, which I played low so the neighbors wouldn’t get suspicious.  After a few days I was getting bold enough to strip down so that I could get a full body tan. I doubted anyone cared that I didn’t have tan lines on my ass, but I wanted to be prepared in case Playgirl called me for their  “Short Neurotic Teens With Postnasal Drip” issue.

It was a Tuesday, and I was applying Hawaiian tropic to my butt, feeling pretty good about myself and what I had accomplished, happily oblivious to the fact that the only thing I had accomplished was taking advantage of what other’s had accomplished. Suddenly, the moment was interrupted by the sound of a sliding door opening.

Most people who trespass have a plan for these sorts of occasions. I did not. My mind was spinning with explanations of why I was standing there naked with handful of SPF 4 and little else. The door continued to slide open and I wondered if this time my parents would really disown me. As I closed up on my 18th birthday I was turning into an expensive liability. My father would say, “Y’know who let’s their kids stick around after they turn 18? The elite!” Like a pimp, my father can link money and love, with no concern about how it looks.

The door finally opened and I was face to face with an attractive woman in her 60’s. This was the Raju’s visiting Grandmother.

Most people’s first instinct in a position like this would be to cover up, but I figured that panicking might tip her off that I was trespassing, so I did what made sense. I acted like I belonged there and held up the bottle of suntan lotion and pointed to my back, motioning that I needed some help with my sunscreen.

I’m not exactly sure what she was thinking when she came face to face with a naked 16 year old standing in her son’s back yard, but since she didn’t speak English and I don’t speak Urdu, we had a small language barrier.  She stared at me for a little while and then raised her eyes to the sky and let out a wail that sounded like something a goat in labor makes.  I didn’t know what the wailing was about, but decided she was probably thanking some Indian deity for sending me to her.

I didn’t move and her wailing stopped and we just stood and stared at each other. Then my mind started to wander. Normally my mind wandering isn’t a problem, but the fact that  I wasn’t wearing any clothes and I had an erection made it hard to hide my thoughts.

Looking back on the experience, with years of time to reflect on it, I can honestly say that she wasn’t the best lay I ever had, but she was the most memorable.  For the next three weeks I was pretty much a regular visitor. Eventually we came up with a system whereby she would let me know the coast was clear by leaving one of the front windows halfway open and I was able to start using the front door instead of coming through the side gate like an employee.  Her name was Hafaz, but I called her my “Curry Mama” and she called me her “Stud Muffin” or at least I think she did. Talking was hard, so I bought a dictionary and we would both point to words and try to piece together sentences.  For me it was the perfect relationship, conversation was sparse and I had full access to a swimming pool and a stocked refrigerator.  And then there was sex. When you’re sixteen dry humping a door-jam equals getting to third base, so this was a dream come true.

Yes, there was the age issue. Most sixteen year olds would be disgusted at the thought of having sex with a sixty-something year old woman, but I think that sort of ageism is vile. We are all people and we all deserve to be loved, unless I can find someone younger, than sleeping with old people is gross.

Hafaz and I were beginning week number three, which was quite a milestone for me and I decided to surprise my Curry Mama.  I wanted to kick it “old school” so I came through the gate instead of knocking on the front door.  To mark the occasion I brought a back-pack containing two glasses and a bottle of Manishevitz Concorde Grape Wine, which I had swiped from home.  I didn’t know much about wine, but I figured that if it was good enough for Sabbath at the synagogue, then it must be good enough for my 21 day anniversary.

I set up the wine and two glasses on a little table by the pool, then I stripped down and stood there waiting for her to notice me.  I would say I was standing there for about 3 agonizing minutes when the tinted glass doors finally slid open and there stood Mr. Raju. It’s hard to say who was more surprised, but judging from the fact I peed myself, I would have to say me.

It seemed that my Curry Mama had gone home, she’d probably told me, but since we couldn’t really understand each other, I missed it.  It didn’t matter anyway, because nobody believed what I was up to, not the Rajus, not my parents and not the cops who showed up to arrest me for trespassing and indecent exposure.

I didn’t have to spend anytime in jail, but when the story got back to school it didn’t make me the cocksman I thought it should. Although, I think a lot of it was jealousy. You know how someone can call you a “perv”, when they mean “awesome”,  I got a lot of that.

I was also required to do 500 hours of community service and get a part-time job to pay to have Mr. Raju’s pool emptied, scrubbed and refilled.  My father said the Rajus were skeeved that I had skinny dipped in the pool. Luckily, no believed my story or I would’ve had to pay for Mr. Raju’s bed, the living room couch, the kitchen counter, a washing machine and the wall to wall carpeting in the aptly named “rumpus room”.

Sadly my days of pool-hopping were over, but on the bright side I was now really popular with all the old ladies at my synagogue.

© 2011 Lloyd Stein